對於孩子而言，過生日絕對是一件值得期待的大日子，因為這一天不但可以收到很多禮物，還能吃到很多自己喜歡的食物，尤其是生日蛋糕。
孩子上了幼兒園之後，每年的生日未必都是周末，很多家長為了不讓孩子失望，常常會往幼兒園送一個蛋糕，讓老師分給班裡的小朋友，一起為孩子慶祝生日。
單位小陳的兒子本來今年3月就該入園的，由於疫情的影響，到了9月才入園。
上個月25號是兒子4歲生日，她就訂了一個生日蛋糕，準備給兒子送到幼兒園。
老師看著她拎著的蛋糕說：『鬧鬧媽媽，你把蛋糕拿回去吧。
班裡孩子多，這麼小的蛋糕也不夠分。
我們幼兒園禁止家長給孩子送生日蛋糕的』
小陳以為老師嫌棄蛋糕小，就又買了一個雙層大蛋糕送了過去，結果還是吃了閉門羹。
小陳認為老師故意刁難自己，就在家長群裡質問老師，結果家長們都一邊倒地支持老師。
幼兒園的老師講出了不讓家長送蛋糕的苦衷
1、食品安全
生日蛋糕的制作原料多為奶油制品，奶油在空氣中放置時間過久就會發生變質，孩子們一旦吃了變質的蛋糕，很容易誘發健康問題。
大多數幼兒園都不允許外面的食物進入幼兒園，不僅僅是生日蛋糕。
對於幼兒園而言，外來食物進校園是一件非常危險的事情，一旦孩子吃了劣質食物，發生群體性中毒事件，這個責任幼兒園承擔不起。
2、攀比之心
孩子從進入幼兒園開始，就開始了團體生活。
『攀比』是團體生活無法避免的，即使孩子沒有，家長之間的攀比也從未停止過。
當幼兒園開啟『孩子過生日，父母送蛋糕』的先例，其他家長就不得不效仿，要知道一個班級裡，並不是所有的家庭都能承受這樣的開銷。
另外，那些過生日時父母沒有送蛋糕的孩子就會受到排擠、冷落，甚至霸凌。
這都是家長之間的虛榮心、攀比心在孩子身上結出的惡果。
3、打亂老師正常教學任務
幼兒園接收了家長送來的蛋糕，就要花更多的時間來組織生日會、分蛋糕，打掃衛生都需要很長的時間，必然會打亂老師的正常教學進度。
孩子上了幼兒園，蛋糕是送，還是不送？
孩子過生日，父母送不送蛋糕，主要還是看幼兒園的政策。
孩子在幼兒園過生日，父母送個蛋糕，你可以看成是炫富、攀比，也可以看作是分享和感恩。
無論是分蛋糕、還是吃蛋糕，都是施與受的學習過程，是孩子學習處理人際關系和管理情緒的好機會，我們似乎沒有必要剝奪。
孩子年齡還小，就像一張白紙，生日會究竟是攀比還是分享，就看父母如何引導了。
最後
生活中的『比較』有很多，不會隻發生在生日會。
父母教會孩子不用物質衡量人和事，這樣孩子內心寬廣，心靈富有，人格也會越來越健康。
英文版
A cake was rejected by the teacher for her daughter’s kindergarten birthday，and parents praised the teacher.
Kindergarten shuts out birthday cakes，even double-decker ones. Parents like them.
For children，birthday is definitely a big day to look forward to，because this day can not only receive a lot of gifts，but also to eat a lot of their favorite food，especially birthday cakes.
After the child went to kindergarten，the child’s birthday is not necessarily the weekend every year，many parents in order not to let the child disappointed，often to send a cake to kindergarten，let the teacher to class children，together to celebrate the birthday.
Chen’s son was supposed to have entered the kindergarten in March this year. Because of the epidemic，he didn’t enter the kindergarten until September. It was her son’s fourth birthday on the 25th last month. She ordered a birthday cake for him to send to the kindergarten.
The teacher looked at the cake she was carrying and said，”Noisy Mom，take the cake back.” There are too many children in the class to divide such a small cake. Our kindergarten forbids parents to give their children birthday cakes.
Xiao Chen thought that the teacher rejected the cake is small，they bought a double big cake sent in the past，the result is to take the door. Xiao Chen that the teacher deliberately make things difficult for themselves，on the group of parents questioned the teacher，the parents are overwhelmingly support the teacher.
The teacher of the kindergarten told the trouble of not letting parents send cakes.
1、 Food safety
Birthday cakes are made from creamy products，butter in the air for too long will spoil，once the children eat the spoiled cake，it is easy to cause health problems.
Most kindergartens don’t allow food from outside，not just birthday cakes. For kindergartens，foreign food into the campus is a very dangerous thing，once the child ate bad food，a group poisoning，the kindergarten can not afford to bear the responsibility.
2、 The heart of comparison
Children enter kindergarten from the beginning，began their group life. Keeping up with the Joneses is an inevitable part of group life. Even if children don’t，the joneses never stop.
When kindergarten sets the precedent of “children celebrating their birthdays and parents giving cakes,” other parents have to follow suit. Not all families in a class can afford such expenses.
In addition，those children whose parents didn’t give them cakes on their birthdays were excluded，left out in the cold，and even bullied. This is between the parents of vanity，comparisons in the heart of the child bear the consequences.
3、 Disturbing the normal teaching tasks of teachers
Kindergarten to receive the cake from parents，we must spend more time to organize birthday parties，sub – cake，cleaning all take a long time，will disturb the teacher’s normal teaching schedule.
Is the cake delivered or not when the child goes to kindergarten?
Children’s birthday，parents do not send cake，mainly to see the kindergarten policy. Children in kindergarten birthday，parents sent a cake，you can be seen as a show off，comparison，can also be seen as sharing and gratitude.
Whether it’s dividing a cake or eating a cake，it’s a give-and-take learning process. It’s a great opportunity for kids to learn how to deal with relationships and manage emotions. The child is still young，just like a blank piece of paper，whether the birthday party is to compare or to share depends on how the parents guide.
Finally
There are so many “comparisons” in life that don’t just happen at birthday parties. Parents teach their children not to measure people and things in material terms，so that children will become more and more healthy and broad-minded.